New Years Resolutions

Achievable Resolutions

Not a ‘New Year New Me’, more of a ‘Me with some improvements’, set of resolutions. I know that if I set myself a goal which is too far away from my current lifestyle, I’ll be setting myself up for failure and disappointment. So I’ve got a couple of resolutions which, hopefully, are quite achievable; and might even inspire a couple of other people as well, hence why I’m sharing them here.

The power of Habit

Habit is a very powerful tool that people don’t take advantage of often enough. When we repeat behaviours over and over, we form neuronal connections that make it easier for us to go back to that behaviour. At first something is a conscious effort, but eventually it becomes unconscious and we do it naturally.

My new years resolutions are to develop little behaviours and repeat small affirmations to myself daily in order to keep improving who I am.

Small Talk

One thing I really want to try and do more is small talk. I often look for meaningful interactions and deeper conversations and get a little bored of preliminary questionsΒ and shallow chit-chat; however I’m starting to appreciate the value of that little bit of extra effort to start a conversation and get to know people a little better. I’m great at listening and I’m always interested in what people have to say, but I’m not very good at initiating a conversation and pushing through the uncomfortable first 5 minutes. But practice makes perfect!

Affirmations

I feel like affirmations are so powerful yet undervalued. I want to set myself a mini personal goal per month, come up with an affirmation to support this, stick it up on my wall and repeat it to myself every single day in the mirror. It sounds silly but it really works! When you tell yourself something over and over again it sticks in your mind, and when you’re faced with a situation that you could potentially handle badly, the affirmation which you’ve glued into your subconscious will pop into your head and remind you to choose the enlightened decision.

My January affirmation is: “As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others. I move beyond forgiveness to understanding and I have compassion and kindness for all.

I set really high standards for myself which isn’t very productive as I’m often left feeling bad about what I’ve accomplished because I always feel like I could do/be/have more. Also I feel like I sometimes reflect my standards for myself on to other people, expecting them to also strive for the same things. So my affirmation is designed to help me let go of constantly needing perfection in my life, and just to live and let live a little more.

Good luck in 2017 πŸ™‚Β 

14 thoughts on “New Years Resolutions

  1. Hi! I really like all of these and I hope it all works for you πŸ™‚
    Mine are:
    1) to live more in the moment and worry less about things of the past or the anticipated future
    2) to not let my social anxiety ruin a lot of opportunities for me – try and learn to take control of it
    3) to do what brings me happiness and positivity and not care as much about what others think and say
    I think overall I just want to focus more on myself mentally!

    I wrote a similar post reflecting on 2016 if you’re interested in reading it πŸ™‚ https://insidethismind.wordpress.com/2017/01/03/reflecting-on-2016/

    Happy new year!!
    xx

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    1. Those are really thoughtful resolutions, I bet they could be helped with affirmations as well – one I did last year for ages which is quite general but really helps is “I love and accept myself right now” xoxoxox

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  2. Great post agree with it ..like i said in an old post..life is on big habit…affirmation work and must be repeated to form a great new habit. I ain’t one for small talk that much too..but yah gotta doing from time to time.. love your post

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  3. Thanks for providing with such an honest and witty post.I aso believe that sometimes is difficult to initiate a conversation so Im also good at listening but when the subject is to start one Im no good.I just do not like akward silences…And is also true instead of coming up with big steps towards starting to be a better person we should give small ones cause by doing this we will suceed.

    If you could have a look in my blog debyoncelife.wordpress.com

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